What are your Regrets?
Have you got any? You already are a perfect parent, right? So is there anything out there beyond the parenting world that you sort of maybe wish you had tried? Let’s fess up!
Love,
Heather
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weehasu said,
July 13, 2007 @ 3:35 pm
Two words: Burning Man
sapphire_chan said,
July 13, 2007 @ 6:11 pm
Nope, taking care of that this summer, and by the next time I can get to Pennsic, I’ll have kids who are old enough to come with me.
mamaof5 said,
July 14, 2007 @ 12:56 am
Maybe got all nasty with the RHCP. LOL
I actually wish dh and I had had the balls enough to get that VW minibus and drive around so he could rock climb like we had talked about when we first got married. Oh well. Maybe we will do that later. I am trying really hard to have no regrets, as their is nothing I can do to change the past… I can only look forward.
Heather in Tucson
amykids said,
July 14, 2007 @ 4:38 am
I must agree with Heather: I aim to look and move forward. Each experience postive and negative, is a learning lesson in this life I live…
:o) Amy
Sanity8080 said,
July 14, 2007 @ 6:29 am
Burning Man, but for me that’s not realistic at this point…Mostly my regrets are marrying my 1st husband and having our daughter (beautiful as she is) with him instead of with my 2nd hubby…Then I wouldn’t have to deal with custody battles and visitation and stuff that takes her away from me.
kriekle said,
July 14, 2007 @ 7:03 am
I wish I hadn’t gotten pregnant before the wedding, so we could have had a honeymoon in Ireland like I’ve always wanted. I’ll still get there, but it’ll be a while before I do. Also, sometimes when I hang out with my sister, I wish I had chosen different life paths. I did one year of tech college, and then was out on my own and never really got to travel much. My sister did the whole traditional college thing, was an exchange student in both high school and college, and has traveled internationally several times outside of school. She’s also done a lot more interstate travel than I’ve been able to do. I have just as much travel lust as she has, but I have different responsibilities than her. However, when I start thinking those thoughts, I remind myself that school has always made me suicidally depressed (not a good state to be in, which is why I didn’t do any more than what I did), and that now that my husband is done with school and has a good job, we can travel as a family. And frankly, I’d rather travel with family than with friends. Having traveled both ways, family is way better.
kriekle said,
July 14, 2007 @ 7:05 am
Oh, and with the trip to Ireland, I’ve had lots of people tell me my husband and I should go alone for an anniversary, and I keep saying “Why would I want to leave my kids for almost a month?” It’s that whole clash of world views thing again!
thefragile7393 said,
July 14, 2007 @ 7:22 am
I will forever regret circ’ing my son and vaxing him for the 1st 6 months of his life.
The Mommy Blawger said,
July 14, 2007 @ 8:15 am
I regret waiting for 5 years and 2 1/2 kids before switching from disposables to cloth diapers. Think of all the money we would have saved!
Every time I get pregnant, I regret not eating Sushi, going horseback riding, or getting dental x-rays before conceiving.
I regret not hiring a doula for my last birth. Even though the birth went fine. At the time I felt like we had only enough money for either a birth tub or a doula, but not both, and I picked the tub. But maybe I could have found a way to do both.
twitchy said,
July 14, 2007 @ 8:25 am
i regret not buying a house while i was in my early 20’s before i had kids and had a fair amount of disposable income, the housing market where i live has completely exploded and it looks like we may never own or at least will be in debt the rest of our lives to do so!
alisaterry said,
July 14, 2007 @ 12:07 pm
I regret not standing up for myself during my child’s birth. I intend to remedy that this time around.
And I kind of regret always nursing my son to sleep, because now that the next one is coming, I’m really worried about him having no other way he’ll sleep. That’s not really a regret though…I don’t beat myself up over it.
And I regret never finishing college, something I hope to remedy in the future.
sewathomemama said,
July 14, 2007 @ 12:59 pm
i regret a horrible relationship i escaped 3.5 years ago. i am still damaged by it & wish i had paid closer attention to the red flags that went up early on.
muenchpace said,
July 14, 2007 @ 1:52 pm
I regret that I was not patient enough with my firstborn. Every difficult phase he went through frustrated me and I got too angry and harsh with him sometimes, not realizing his phases were just temporary. Now his little sister does exactly the same difficult things and I respond much more positively this time around.
Other regret is that we did not buy a house before having kids, I’m in the same situation as Twitchy above (Twitchy do you live in Miami too?)
Dawn
tgperg said,
July 14, 2007 @ 3:05 pm
I regret going to an OB and to a hospital for my son’s birth. I regret not learning more about AP before he was born. We had a rough 6 weeks until I found LLL. Luckily, I did know I wanted him left intact, so I don’t have that to regret. He’s just a really intense, high-needs, spirited, whatever you want to call it child, and I wonder if part of that was the stressful beginning we had. I’m doing a homebirth with my second child due next month, and there’s so much we’re doing differently, I just feel guilty that my son didn’t get the same start.
Traci
wiffersnapper said,
July 14, 2007 @ 4:44 pm
I also regret not standing up for myself during the pregnancy and birth of my daughter. When the OB took 5 vials of blood from me and pooh-pooh my statement that I was dizzy, that should’ve told me that these people were not going to listen to me during the birth, either. But they were “the best in county”, so I thought it was just me. Now I know better, and I will do better with #2. I don’t worry too much about regrets as long as I can learn from my mistakes.
morganmcf said,
July 14, 2007 @ 6:57 pm
I regret marrying my first husband. I should have taken my pregnant self and run as FAST AS I COULD.
MommyToPunkiePie said,
July 14, 2007 @ 10:00 pm
I have had lots of learning experiences so far in this life of mine, but I only regret one thing. I regret ever moving back *home* when I was pregnant, because now I just can’t seem to get back to where I want to be.
thordora said,
July 15, 2007 @ 4:08 am
I should have argued with my OB more regarding my mental state with my second born. Maybe then I could have avoided the PPD, and dealt with my bipolar a few years ago.
I regret being so sick with PPD that I wanted my second daughter to die. I regret losing the first months of her life to PPD.
I regret teaching my daughter to talk, because now she’s almost 4 and will.not.shut.up.
janaki said,
July 16, 2007 @ 11:14 am
I regret having a hospital birth, letting them induce me 3 weeks early, having an epidural, not bedsharing for the first 3 months after my dds birth, and letting my pediatrcian talk me into supplementing with formula instead of talking to a LC first. It’s all good, though! Live and learn, right? At least the epidural and supplement haven’t seemed to affect my supply. DD’s in the 20-25%, not too bad at all! Versus 3% when she was born.
twitchy said,
July 16, 2007 @ 10:20 pm
muenchpace i actualy live in british columbia on the west coast. sounds like our problem is probably universal
night_nurse said,
July 17, 2007 @ 10:48 am
I regret not finishing my thesis while I was pregnant, being to busy feeling sorry for myself on the couch (I’m sooo nautious! My back huuurts! etc.) and telling myself I would have plenty of time the first weeks after my son’s birth (’babies sleep like, all day, right?). Rookie mistake!
crunchymama said,
July 17, 2007 @ 9:27 pm
Regrets? I never hopped a frieght when I was young and stupid enough. Still haven’t made a National Rainbow Gathering. But I’m looking forward to a LLLI conference someday!
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